Many of my counselling clients find the idea of forming an image of their future self useful. Imagining how you hope to be in a few years time, and making the little steps to get there. This can be so helpful in nurturing self compassion and changing unhelpful behaviour patterns, relationship patterns and destructive behaviours that you may currently be ignoring. Your future self is already dormant in you now and you build him/her each day, without even knowing it.
If we look back five years from now, what change that you didn’t make that you now wish you had? Leaving a bad relationship or job sooner? What would ten minutes of yoga a day have done for you, or a 20 minute run? Imagine if you’d started writing that book five years ago when you first thought of it, or saved £10 a week.
Conversely, what are you thankful for now that you did start back then? Making those savings, limiting cake-eating to the weekends, giving up smoking, quitting your dead end job.
Hold in mind your future self for a moment.
What does she need from you now? What can you give to her? What do you need around you to do this if it isn’t in place already?
Imagine how you want to be then, your self, your life, and then take those tiny but frequent steps towards it, whether it’s weeks away (to loose pounds to fit into your favourite dress again) months (to start the class/writing/reading you always wanted to) or years (to save for a home, nurture your relationships, your career).
A counsellor (Prof. Dip) and psychotherapist (MSc) sharing inspiration and tips for better wellbeing. My knowledge is freely given, please feel free to share after asking! Let's help each other lead satisfying meaningful lives.